Healing with motherly love

A unique method based on the traditions of Russian psychotherapy, pedagogy and the experience of folk medicine helps mothers cope with the majority of children's diseases.

Little Ilyusha had a delay in speech development. It sounds so innocent - procrastination. And in the end, the 4-year-old boy simply did not speak. At all! Rina's mother took him to various doctors - to no avail. They didn't find anything serious in the boy, it's just that every specialist considered it their duty to prescribe medical treatment. At the age of five, Ilyusha finally spoke, but here came the second trouble - he started stuttering. And again at doctors' offices, speech therapy kindergarten, speech development center... Specialists easily prescribed new preparations. Then it got worse. During the stuttering, the child began to have seizures. The mother was simply in despair!

Nadia grew up a mobile, cheerful and developed girl for her years. And everything would be fine if she didn't have the already traditional disease for modern city children - atopic dermatitis / neurodermatitis. What specialists were the parents looking for! They got acquainted with all the known methods - from traditional antihistamine preparations to a diet depending on the blood group. And without explaining how much money was spent on Nadia's 6-year treatment! And the improvements were just minor...

We can accurately define as absolutely safe for the child only his mother.

It is known that the mother and the child up to a certain point are one whole, have a single psycho-emotional field. And mother's intuition is capable of working miracles. All this is in the domain of "subtle" matter, and such a community has existed since its conception. How does the family prepare for the birth of the child? Is this desirable? No less important is the setting of the mother during pregnancy: what is in her blood - chemistry of joy or depression? How is the moment of birth? How does the mother take care of the already born child? The child constantly feels the degree of community with the mother and reacts to even the smallest changes. And quite often - the disease itself is a call with which the child says: pay attention to me, correct the mistake! And how important it is at this moment to turn to a competent specialist!

The method is a miracle...

Professor of psychotherapy Boris Zinovievich Drapkin has been treating children with similar illnesses for many years. He created a unique method based on the traditions of Russian psychotherapy and pedagogy, as well as the experience of folk medicine. The method takes into account the deep psycho-emotional connection between the mother and the child, using the resources of the mother's love and the enormous possibilities that arise during communication with her child.

"We all love our children – says Prof. Drapkin – but it's sad that we don't do it the way the child needs it. Imagine that your child has a tank inside him that it always should be full of motherly love. If it is not enough, the tank dries up, the child gets sick - with his body he screams about the emerging problems". There are several ways to fill this tank:

We need to caress with our hands more often, hug, caress, deal with him, fight - but in moderation. The attentive parent sees when the child has had enough of such physical contacts.

There is one more way, one of the most effective – activation of the verbal, conversational way of communication. THE MOTHER'S VOICE - this is a wonderful and much needed medicine for the child!"We strive for the mother's voice to become the inner voice of the child. - emphasizes Prof. Drapkin - The mother gives her child certain positive attitudes, affecting his whole organism. They are established on a conscious level and affect all the organs of the child."

Rita, the mother of 5-year-old Ilyosha, found out about Prof. Drapkin's method by accident and was quite skeptical at first. But she was ready for anything, just to stop the torture of her child."It seemed too simple to be true and to work.", recalls Rita,“But when after two weeks of me diligently following the method and my son's seizures stopped, I just couldn't believe it. At first, I thought that I was so dreaming of improving his condition that I was ready to see even that which does not exist in reality! But the kindergarten speech therapist, who did not know about my experiments, asked me: “What's going on? What are these miracles?” And then I believed in this magic and went on with redoubled strength. After three months, most of the problems disappeared."

Katya, Nadia's mother, admits that at the beginning she didn't expect much success either, but she thought: "Even telling my daughter over and over again how much I love her will only help." After a few months, the improvement was already visible and Nadia stopped feeling different from other children.

The Fluids of Love

Naturally, not everyone can go to a reception with Prof. Drapkin, but understanding how necessary his method is for thousands of children, he willingly shares the basics. The basic program, useful for everyone, including healthy children, consists of four blocks. The phrases to be spoken are not random. Each word has been thought through and checked, so replacing and shuffling them in sentences is not recommended.

So, 20-30 minutes after your child is asleep, mom sits on his crib with the text in her hands and reads each phrase three times. At first for himself, to get to know her, then mentally. These phrases should be read every day. How long? 1-2 months... here everything depends on the condition of the child. Neither the high temperature nor any other manifestations of disease conditions in the child are contraindications. But, if the mother herself is not in shape - if she is sick, tense, irritated - then the session is better not to take place. As a last resort, it can be conducted by the maternal grandmother.

1 block – The vitamin of mother's love

With the help of these words, the mother pours out her love to the child:

- I love you very, very much.

- You are my dearest and dearest thing that I have.

- Without you, I can't live.

- Daddy and I love you very much.

2 block – Physical health

The mother mentally imagines the ideal image of her child. All pediatrics is collected here:

– You are a strong, healthy, beautiful child, my little boy/girl.

- You eat well and that's why you grow and develop /this phrase works wonderfully, the child has a good appetite/.

- You have a strong and healthy heart, chest, stomach / resulting from the intersection of all psychosomatic diseases - asthma, cardiac neuroses, dyskinesia of the bile ducts.../.

- You move easily and beautifully /crosses all movement disorders/.

3 block – Neuro-mental health

– You are a calm boy/girl.

- You have good, healthy nerves.

– You are patient, you are kind, you are sociable.

– You are a smart boy/girl.

- Your brain is developing perfectly, you understand and remember everything.

- You are always in a good mood and like to smile /we limit childhood depression and a whole group of mental disorders/.

- You sleep well /this suggestion very quickly begins to work/.

– You fall asleep easily and quickly, you only dream nice and good dreams.

– You rest well when you sleep.

– Your speech is developing well and quickly.

4 block – Emotional effect, purification from diseases /from folk medicine/

– I take and throw away your illness and your difficulties /further the mother names the specific problems of the child/.

"I pick up and throw away your nightmares."

– I take and throw away your whining.

"I pick up and throw away your reluctance to eat."

- I love you very, very much - final and most important phrase!

The most important thing is to always end with the assurance of boundless love. Pay attention: the whole program is absolutely positive, there is no NO, you just awaken in the child to be good, happy, healthy and strengthen his confidence that this is possible.

Diary

Another important component of the motherly love healing method is journaling. Every day, you should see in your child something new, some growth, progress that you previously did not notice, although an improvement in his condition. The past does not exist! The main thing is to live by the principle "Today and Now". There is only today, and the watchful mother's eye probably sees what changes have taken place.

The majority of mothers who benefited from this method say that the child calmed down in a short time, became far less irritable. The improvement of the physical condition occurs for some faster, for others more slowly, some are cured of the problems completely, others partially. But all mothers tell about the amazing union with the child, thanks to which the atmosphere in the whole family changes. Relationships become warmer and closer. Rita says that she continues to use this method because she discovered its most important advantage - the completely changed inner attitude towards the child. "Today, I accept him for who he is. His natural childish reactions no longer annoy me, I behave much more calmly, and I see how my child changes in response."

The most important thing is to set yourself up and use the resources that are embedded in Mother Nature herself. And everything will work out!

This method has been tested on thousands of patients and was patented back in 2001, it was recognized by the Russian Society of Child Psychiatrists, and today it is taught in "The Department of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, Psychotherapy and Clinical Psychology".

Boris Zinovievich Drapkin is one of the world's most famous child psychiatrist and psychotherapist, honorary professor of psychotherapy. Until 1996, he worked as a chief child psychotherapist in the Ministry of Health of Russia. At the same time, he was the chief child and adolescent psychiatrist of the city of Moscow. He is the author of more than 100 scientific works.

See also: Maria Montessori's Magnificent Rules of Education

Translation from Russian: Zlatina Dimitrova

Source: Bulgarian School of Psychoanalysis

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