My husband will always come before my children

This confession of a mother caused a wave of comments and debates on the web. And as usual, people were divided.

Because her beliefs are contrary to the common belief that for a mother, the child always comes first in her life. And in this lady's frank story, the main character is her husband.

Let's see her revelation and try to understand her point of view.

"Less than a month after our wedding, before I could even send the thank you letters for the wedding gifts, I was already holding a positive pregnancy test in my hands.

After eight and a half months, while we were still adjusting to our new roles as husband and wife, we were now parents. I don't want to say that we weren't ready for it, on the contrary - we were looking forward to the growth of our new family. But I must say that becoming a mother in the same year as a wife is not so easy.

The first year after our son was born was the hardest for our marriage, and it was also the year I learned a very important lesson: My husband must always come before my children.

Do not get me wrong. I love my children very much and I am ready for anything for them. But I love my husband more.

When I share this thought with my friends, they are shocked. And usually I meet their indignation and complete misunderstanding. Because it goes against the golden rule of motherhood: Being a good parent means sacrificing everything for the well-being and happiness of your children.

Neglecting your own needs for the needs of the children is practically a requirement, but sorry, I just don't buy it.

I know a lot of people find the concept of children coming second ridiculous. There is no doubt that the bond between mother and children is extremely strong. But I see the investment in my husband's relationship as beneficial and important to our entire family.Putting this priority reduces the likelihood of divorce and, accordingly, increases the chances that children will grow up in a normal and complete family.

In addition, I firmly believe that building healthy and good relationships between us becomes a foundation for our children and shows them how to build their own family relationships when they grow up. My husband and I are for them the first example of a happy marriage. By watching us, children learn how they should treat their future partners and what to expect in terms of treatment.

I think that an extremely important factor in the development of children is that they grow up in a home where parents love and value each other. And let them see it. That means to me putting my man first.

With a few exceptions, we have never taken the children into our bed. When we had the opportunity to rest just the two of us, we always used it. And I don't feel guilty that we sometimes relied on someone else's help when we wanted to be just the two of us, go out somewhere and talk about anything but the kids.

In a few years, when our two children leave our home and go their separate ways, I'd like to celebrate a job well done with my beloved, not stay in a deserted home with someone we've drifted apart over the years. and we have become absolute strangers.'