Get rid of the habit of constantly comparing yourself to others

Usually when you get some important task you feel lost, confused, scared and lonely. It doesn't matter if it's a big project or a new relationship, stepping into the unknown can scare the hell out of you.

This situation is especially strongly experienced by those who are used to being ordered and dividing life into white and black. On the one hand, you feel vulnerability, on the other - readiness to fight. At first it's the feeling of "it's all gone boss", but the next moment you get a slight positive impulse. After a minute - another impasse. After a while it becomes clear that the whole waterfall of emotions is absolutely groundless.

and so:

Get rid of the habit of constantly comparing yourself to others

This habit of constantly comparing ourselves and our achievements to others does us no good. What should we do to achieve success? It is necessary to occupy our own traffic lane, our corridor on the track, and to find or build them requires work, time, courage...

You are actually comparing yourself to your sensations

When you compare yourself to others - you are comparing your career, personal life or specific actions yourself with your own perceptions of that person. You can never know his true nature.

Admiring certain things - work ethic, sense of humor or dress style is perfectly normal, but it's only part of the big picture. But you can never find out until the end if everything is really as others present it. Sometimes true introverts look like extroverts…

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Pay no attention to boasting

This is difficult. Eradicating this habit is completely impossible. Sometimes you feel insulted or envious of other people's successes. But there is enough success around you for everyone. To rejoice in other people's successes when you are madly expecting your own is extremely difficult. But let's be honest, do you really need this achievement? Be clear about exactly what you want. What you want, not what others have achieved.

On the other side of the numbers

The feeling of own insignificance arising from comparison with others is deepened by social media. You may think that everyone has something to brag about, but not you. Still, numbers are just numbers - how many followers, how many likes, how many shares. Just numbers. Maybe what you have achieved is not so popular among others, but the fact that you did it is extremely important to you, regardless of whether you shared it on the web or not and whether it has likes or not.

How to stop comparing ourselves to others

Often, your favorite things - photos, video, projects that are of exceptional value to you - get minimal coverage. Is this the measure of success? Create your own definition of success. Your own measure of achievement. And measure your own successes by it alone.

Alone with myself

It sounds a little crazy, but really, there is only YOU. You are unique. And this means that your experience, your worldview is unique. That's what makes you amazing and valuable. No matter how hard you try, you can't transform into someone else. There will always be someone smarter or taller or slimmer or richer or stronger.. It could just be you. Or to become a better version of yourself.

Adequate comparison

It is rightly said that you are only as good as your opponent. Sometimes competition is very useful. It pushes you to expand the boundaries of your consciousness. But it is very important not to let the adversary destroy your plans to create what you love and believe in. Comparing yourself to others can be an extremely tiring activity. The constant stream of bragging on social media, the internet, magazines, and the world at large, where everything revolves around one's self, can have a very negative impact, if you let it of course.

We also show you a wonderful video by Milena Goleva - Comparison is the thief of happiness: